Court

Baby R had court today. I wasn't there. An odd feeling the whole morning really..but it seems to have gone favorably. Although this time favorably for us, baby and bio-mom is for R to go home to be with his mom.

I missed being there. As anticlimactic as most court hearings are, it is usually the only time anything HAPPENS. I spend months, making calls, having appointment, visits, keeping everything updated etc etc...just to have nothing happen until after a court date.

As per my (albeit limited) previous court experience, it is a hurry up and wait situation. Baby R will be returning home when X gets completed in 2-4 weeks, and then up to 30 days after that. The encouraging bit is, the hold up is not on his Mom's end. She has worked hard to set up a good life for the kiddos to get back to, and this waiting is much harder on her.

My heart hurts for R's mom, she craves updates on her baby boy, but even the happiest moments, can elicit sad responses from her as for her it just means happy moments she is missing with her baby. This has been a very low stress, low anxiety placement for us, and I am learning so much; this being my first experience developing a relationship with the "bio" parents, and I hope to utilize this easy going, communicative, and positive bio-mom experience to fuel any difficult moments I may have in our future fostering endeavors.